I’ve always known that modesty meant different things to different people. But ever since starting this blog over a year and a half ago I am realizing more and more that everyone holds to their own standards of what modesty is. Does modesty mean dressing to cover your whole body? Does it mean to wear sleeves on your shirts and longer shorts than normal? Does it mean to not dress flashy? Or does it just mean to dress appropriately for the situation? I know what modesty is to me, and have never defined it on this blog because I don’t expect everyone to have the same standards as me. I expect that a lot of you are probably more strict in your dress than I am, and a lot of you are less. I will continue to post the way I always have, and will continue to not post a definition of what modesty is. However, I would love to hear from my wonderful readers… what does modesty mean to you? And why are you modest?

I also want to thank all of you for never judging what I post. I appreciate that we can all respect each others standards and help each other achieve what is important to us. If I post items on here that you don’t believe are modest, thank you for skipping to the next item, knowing that not everything is for everyone. If you like what you see, thank you for leaving positive comments. My dear readers, THANK YOU for being amazing and being tolerant of everyone’s standards and beliefs. I guess this post should have gone up on Thanksgiving as I am truly thankful to have such amazing people to share my finds with and indulge in conversations with.

I can’t wait to hear from you…

Natalie

Okay, so here’s the thing, I love Shade Clothing. I’m pretty much a devotee. But the first 100 times I looked at their website I just didn’t get it.  I don’t know where the disconnect in my brain was, but I just saw lots of sort of plain-ish clothes that I had no idea what to do with.

Then, I saw it.  Their Style Guide.  Shade does an AMAZING job of putting their clothes with the kinds of items that we all have in our closet anyway to create really wearable looks.  I love seeing the looks that they put together with clothes of theirs + clothes from other places, because isn’t that how we all dress?

Shade has really livable, wearable clothes.  Of course I love a J.Crew kind of look and an Anthropologie kind of look, but, I love the Shade look, too, and this is a perfect match for my lifestyle of picking up toys, playdates, wiping noses, etc.

Plus, the best part, is when you have a simple canvas of really wearable clothes that are easy to mix and match, then when you buy a special top or necklace from Anthropologie, it really takes the outfit up to a new level.  An easy upgrade.

Take this girl in the middle here:  I never would think to pair that sweater and that blazer together, but I think the outfit looks great.  I think we all have some dark wash skinny jeans in our closet, so we’re halfway there to that cute outfit.  Then, if you wanted to add a blouse instead of the sweater…upgrade!

two things I should mention:
1. Shade did not pay for, sponsor, or solicit this post. I’m seriously just a mega-fan of Shade and wanted to share.
2. The Style Guide is kind of hard to find on the website (why, Shade? Put it front and center!) but click the link, or from their blog you can go the the Style Guide category on the right and view all of the posts showing past Style Guides. I definitely recommend it.

I am not an anthropologist, nor am I a guy…so this post is all just from my observations, but it seems to me that there are two kinds of cute out there when it comes to women’s clothing: one is girl cute and the other is guy cute. Girl cute are the kinds of things that other women compliment you on when you wear them. Most of these fashions tend to go right over the heads of the male population. Things like bows, ruffles, frilliness, or any type of adornment that doesn’t have a function.

Take these examples:
Pointy shoes? I don’t think guys appreciate that look. I’m not sure I do either, but most guys I know seem to have a very clear witch correlation in their heads.
Big bib necklaces?  All of that stuff, and it doesn’t really do anything?  Doesn’t make sense to guys.
Big sunglasses?  Honestly, I love me some killer Mary-Kate Olsen sunglasses, I’m definitely a fan.  I think, however, that these are firmly in the girl cute category.
Hair pieces?  Girl cute FOR SURE.
Dresses with big bows, big rosettes right in the middle, or ruffly skirts?  I think that to guys, it’s just a lot of fabric that has no purpose, which means they just don’t get it.

Of course, the bottom line to all of this is, who cares?  If you like it, then wear it.  Simple as that.  I remember a post from A CUP OF JO once where Joanna linked to an article she wrote for Glamour about this topic (she calls it girl pretty vs. guy pretty).  The most interesting part to me was the comment where a guy said “Cute girl in ruffles = a cute girl in ruffles.”  I think that’s exactly right.  Of course, I don’t think you have to give up your feminism or sense of self if sometimes you want to dress in a way that men can understand and appreciate, too.

It’s just interesting to see the chasm between girl taste and guy taste.

What do you think? What else is in the girl cute category?

Hello Sensibly Styled!
I am at a total loss as to what I and my two little boys should wear for my brother’s wedding. (my husband will be wearing a tux)  I would be forever grateful if you could give me your opinion and guide me in the right direction as to what would look nice, classy, and flattering.
Here are the details:
First, I am a 29 year old mom of two boys.  My husband is a medical resident. . .why does this matter?  Well, our income is very limited right now with a resident’s salary.  So my price range is nothing over $150 for my whole outfit.  My two little boys nothing over $100 for both of them.  I am more of an hourglass figure, 5′ 7″.  My boys are ages 6 and 3.
OK, here are the wedding details:
The wedding is going to take place in Utah in December, so It will be cold.  The bride is wanting all the women and girls in the wedding party (even the brides maids) to wear black skirts with their choice of a top.   The wedding colors are a pale pink and a dark royal blue.
So I need to find a flattering black skirt,  either a pink or blue top (I am thinking I like the idea of pink the best, however I am open to anything), and boots or heels, nylons or no nylons?
I am in need of your help, please.
I have no idea as to what my boys should wear.  The men will all have black tux’s.  They will be the only children in the whole wedding party.  So we really could have them wear what ever.  I just have no idea if they should also wear black slacks, or gray, or tan?  Any suggestions?
Thank you so much for looking this over, if you feel like this is to hard of a challenge I totally understand.
I included the most recent picture of our family.
-Jessica O.

Hi Jessica!  I was so excited to see your email.  I have a brother that just finished his fellowship in Ophthalmology this summer.  Now…27 years of school, an awesome wife, and 5 wonderful children later…he has started in his practice.  (Anyone in Idaho Falls need an Opthalmologist/Genius?  Let me know.)  So, I can understand the plight of a hardworking resident’s family.  And what a beautiful family at that!  Your boys are just so handsome, and they are going to melt everyone at the wedding with their cute outfits.

For the boys, I found a pant/shirt/vest/tie set for a great price.  The tie and the shirt aren’t right for the wedding, but the pants and vest will be perfect (and they can wear the whole set to church or something).  The pants are black and the vest is a dark charcoal gray with a slight pinstripe.  Perfect.  I think it would look best to keep the boys in the same colors as the rest of the wedding party.  This white shirt is from Old Navy, and this is the kind I get for my sons.  It has a nice thickness to it, washes well, and irons nicely.  If they need new dress shoes, here’s a good option, but you might be able to find something for a lesser price.  I found a cute pink bowtie, but my favorite find of all is this men’s silk tie.  (You may be able to find something similar at a local department store.)  I loved how perfect the colors are for the wedding, but the only problem is that it’s a men’s tie.  However, if you are handy with a sewing machine, I bet you could fashion 2 boy’s bowties out of one men’s tie.  That’s what I would do (or, rather…that’s what I would ask my mom to do for me.)

Pant/vest set, $14.99
White shirt, $14.50
Shoes, $24.99
Tie, $10.00
Total per boy: $64.48 (that price doesn’t include shipping costs, so anything you can find at a local store will help lower your overall cost.  Plus, if they already have a white shirt or black dress shoes, then that’s a great place to save money.)

Now, for you. I found a great pencil skirt from Target, but just about any black pencil skirt would work just fine. So, if you have one already, just wear that. The skirt isn’t really the star of the outfit, so don’t put your money there. Finding light pink tops at this time of year was a little difficult, but I did find some pretty options in the blue color. Plus, I think a deep blue will be gorgeous with your lovely blond hair.  My favorite is the first one on the left because the ruffled neckline is to die for, and I like the long sleeves for a winter wedding, but any of these tops would look great tucked into a pencil skirt (the last one would look best tucked into a very highwaisted pencil skirt to cover the smocking, or you could wear it untucked with a regular skirt.)
(Blouses from left to right: ruffle front, ruffled 3/4 sleeve, tie-neck blouse, shimmer top)
Wear your favorite black heels, or if you need a new pair, try these timeless pumps. The brand is Jessica Simpson, and my sister has these heels, so I can vouch that they are killer sexy. I love the look of this multi-strand pearl necklace with the deep blue top, or you can always wear any pearl accessories that you already have (or can borrow).  I would definitely wear tights. It will be winter after all, plus I LOVE tights. I like this shimmery blue pair from Old Navy, but just about anything will work. Target has great tights, and I’m sure you’ll be able to find an inexpensive pair of opaque or patterned black tights there.
Lastly, I found this pretty bloom on etsy.com and I think it would be beautiful pinned onto your shoulder, on your hip (in the front just off to the side a little) or in your hair if you’re up for it. I think it will give the outfit that finishing touch and the pale pink will play off your blue top really well.

Have a great time at the wedding, you’ll look great!
Love, Emily

My picks:
Skirt, $14.99
Blouse, $44.50
Shoes, $68.95
Necklace, $12.99
Tights, $9.50
Bloom, $9.00
Total: $159.93  (that doesn’t include any shipping costs, so if you live near these stores you could call to see if they carry the items you’re looking for in your size.  And of course, if you can use anything you already have, that’s the best way to save money.)

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Okay, so no offense meant to those who are Lands’ End fans…

But, until very recently, I just didn’t get it.  I was convinced that Lands’ End was for old ladies with bland taste.  Then, in June, I ordered some dress shirts for my husband for Father’s Day and ever since I’ve been getting all these catalogs.  Well, wouldn’t you know it, some of their clothes are really cute.  Take the lady in the mustard colored cords, for example.  It’s just a step away from making me think that’s a page from a J.Crew catalog.  And the first lady, with the argyle sweater…seriously, I would die to look that awesome when my hair is gray.  No, take that back, I would be thrilled to look that put together now.

What’s so great about Lands’ End is that they have this new fit concept. Fit 1-2-3. So, if you are into mom jeans, then hit yourself up with some Fit 3 (no offense to mom jeans, seriously. After having twins, my stomach has a decent pooch that fits really well in mom jeans. I didn’t get it before, but I sure do now.) If you want something a little more stylish, go for Fit 2. Then, if you’re looking for a modern, while still modest, fit…there’s the new Fit 1. Perfect. Jeans with a lower rise, but not a low low rise, if you know what I mean.  If you’re in the market for some cheesy tapered knit pants and shlumpy tops, don’t worry.  Lands’ End still has plenty of those, too.

But, if you’re like me and thought that bland, cheesy, and shlumpy was all they had, then give Lands’ End a second look.  You’ll find cute tops, a great striped boyfriend cardigan, and great basic tees.

Besides…with free shipping, free returns to Sears, and fits for every body…there’s really no reason not to give them a try, right?

Do you like this necklace? There is an auction going on over at Fabulous Fun Finds with a lot more stuff! It’s to help raise money for a woman who just lost her husband and is left to raise their three kids. ( I can’t even imagine…) If you have a minute you should check it out!

Alright, so… my good friend Almira has a mother in law who seriously makes the best cookies I have ever had in my life. (They’ve even been featured on the Rachel Ray show…) (seriously) When Almira first told me how good her (at the time ‘future’) mother in law’s cookies were, I wondered how any one cookie could be that much better than any other. However, I was at Almira’s luncheon after her wedding and these amazing cookies were handed out. (I can’t remember which flavor but I’m pretty sure they were the ones pictured on the left, toffee chocolate chip) And I was floored at how delicious they were. Seriously… I kept trying to figure out ways I could ask for more without looking like a pig! But I decided just to savor the ones I had. I have also thought about these cookies several times since.

Anyhoo… the point of this post is that Heidi (Almira’s mother in law) has an online shop Heidi’s Heavenly Cookies and is doing a giveaway of a box of her gourmet cookies! I seriously had a battle within myself as to whether or not I should tell you guys because I so desperately want to win. However, I also know that sharing something like this is the right thing to do. (lol… but really. haha) Alright, so this had nothing to do with fashion… but it does have to do with being the happiest person on this planet! (except for Heidi’s family who can eat these all the time… luckies!) So go on over and enter Heidi’s Heavenly Cookies giveaway for a chance to try the best cookies on earth!

I am loving these boots! I think I need to save my pennies (or hundred dollar bills…) for a pair.

Both images from the Become Fashion and Beauty blog where they tell you all the latest fashion DO’s. And I tell you what… I want them both! They totally remind me of the boots that Zooey Deschanel is wearing in 500 days of Summer during their break up scene (couldn’t find a picture of what I’m talking about). If anyone finds a decent priced pair… let me know! And when I say decent priced… I mean… under $100!

YAY! I did it! I just went online to wildflower diapers and bought cloth diapers! When I was first pregnant I thought about cloth diapers vs. disposable and I really considered both options. But then I started getting disposable diapers as gifts, and didn’t need to buy diapers until Jane was about 4 months old… which… stopped me from thinking too much about it because they were free!

So this last week or two (for some weird reason) I have become a little more environmentally conscious. For instance, every time I use a paper towel, every time I take my extremely long showers, keep the water running while brushing my teeth etc. etc. I feel guilty! So I have been thinking a lot about switching over to cloth diapers, buying cloth napkins and taking shorter showers

Yesterday I was at my friend Kathryn’s house and she uses cloth diapers (and cloth napkins…) and so I started quizzing her on why she likes them and why she uses them. Anyways, I watched her change her sons diaper and she showed me how EASY it is! I was really impressed. So, I asked Zach last night whether or not I could spend the money and he agreed (as long as I stick with the cloth diapers!) So I bought some this morning! WOO HOO! Even though I haven’t started using them yet, I already feel better. I feel this crazy sense of accomplishment. Anyhoo… just thought I would share my excitement!

Average cost of diapers a year per child: $800

I spent $203 for 12 cloth diapers (you do have to run laundry every 2-3 days which will be every 2 days for me because I only bought 12) I may need a few more but wanted to test these out first!
My friend only used 12 for her daughter who is now potty trained. And the 12 lasted from newborn to potty trained. (and now she handed them off to her friend and they are still great!) Crazy cool. And the Bum Genius are cool because they are one size fits all (there are size adjustments on them)! SWEET!

Do any of you use cloth diapers? How do you like them?

Are any of you considering cloth diapers? What’s your hesitation?

I would love to hear your thoughts!

Here’s an email from our reader Malissa:
Hello!
I came across your site about a week ago and LOVE it! In fact, copied an entire outfit for my reunion next weekend! Everything is pulled together so perfectly with accessories,etc -I could not have done it on my own.
I know you get a lot of questions about family pictures (loved the post about what NOT to do) and was hoping you could help me out. I seem to get stuck in a rutt of always dressing my family in boring jeans and neutral colored tops. I am inspired by families like Nie Nie‘s who look like they should be in a catalog! We are a fun and casual family so nothing too fancy, but wouldn’t mind wearing a dress/skirt or maybe even just a dressy top with jeans and heels. And the girls in something sweet and girly. (We have two little girls – ages 4 and 2. Also expecting another member of the family in March, but I’m not showing yet so no need for a maternity outfit!) Our pictures are scheduled for mid September, which is still HOT in Boise, so nothing that we’ll burn up in (made that mistake last year!) You think you could find us each an outfit that’s not too matchy matchy but goes together? Now THERE is a challenge for you!
I included the most recent pic of the fam that I could find… right before my daughter’s ballet recital.
Keep up the incredible work!
Malissa
Meridian, Idaho

Hi Malissa!
First of all, what a beautiful family!
Second of all, does everyone remember the family pictures that Gabrielle (Design Mom) had taken in Central Park by the amazing Candice Stringham? Of course you do, it was like the photo shoot heard ’round the world-it was so amazing! You can read here about the process of preparing for that family picture shoot, and I liked how they came up with a color scheme and a conceptual theme. I did the same thing here with the color scheme inspired by this image from the MS Weddings blog. They have really great color palettes that are useful for parties, decorating, and I guess even dressing a family for pictures. Plus, they’re just pretty. I wanted the conceptual theme to be something like: fun/carnival/bright & cheerful/end of summery/playful/etc.

For Dad:
A nice ice blue button down shirt, great yellow tie, and dark bootcut jeans.

For Mom:
Since you’re tall and lean, I bet you’ll look slammin’ in this Shabby Apple dress with this yellow belt. Some cute patterned heels and a gorgeous bracelet finish it off.

Big Sister:
A cute pink jumper with a blue collared shirt underneath and some fun orange patent leather maryjanes.

Little Sister:
An adorable denim jumper with a sweet floral embroidered sweater on top. Perfect red saltwater sandals and a cute little orange bow top it off.

Have a great time and send us a picture when they’re done! You’ll look great!
Love, Emily

Hi, Natalie-

My name is Jennifer W, and I’m at home all day with young children.
Shopping trips for mommy clothes are…not happening.

Shopping on line? Happens this way:

1. Mommy sees clothes on sale
2. Mommy wants these cute new clothes (not the $5 t-shirt she bought four years ago because it was big enough to wear into the second trimester of pregnancy and is still wearing)
3. Mommy orders the new clothes.
4. They arrive
5. They don’t fit right
6. They never fit right
7. Mommy sighs and puts on another $5 t-shirt

I look at the size charts. I made a virtual model at Lands End. I say the buying clothes on line prayer, but I still wind up returning 75% of what I buy on line. I’ve given up on shoes completely.

What is the secret? Help!!!!

Thank you.

Even if you can’t respond to this e-mail, it was very therapeutic writing it.

Jennifer

Hi ladies! Do any of you happen to have any tips for Jennifer? Better yet… any tips for all the other people (probably the majority of people who order online) who struggle with this issue? Leave a comment for Jennifer if you have any advice! Thanks!

This blog has given me a chance to rethink my approach to clothes.  It’s like my very own “What Not To Wear”, except without the $5000 and embarrassment on national television.  I’ve had some realizations of what I’ve been doing wrong, and what I could do to make things better.  So, if you will, indulge me in my deep thinking about my wardrobe.

Realizations:

1.  As I’ve gotten older (remember?, 28 next month! holy crap!) I’ve transitioned from needing quantity clothes into needing quality clothes.  When I was in high school and college, pre-kids, I could pretty much get away with wearing whatever.  I was really rough on my clothes, and felt like I needed lots of clothes, so my goal was cheap stuff that fit well enough.  Now that I’ve had kids and I no longer have the body I did when I was 20, well enough is not good enough.  I’d rather have 2 pairs of jeans that fit perfectly than 10 pairs that fit kind of okay.  I’ve learned I don’t need to wash my clothes as often and obsessively as I did when I was younger (did you do that, too?  I used to wash jeans every time I wore them, crazy!) and I need clothes that really work for me now.  They don’t have to be expensive, they just need to be quality clothes.  Easy to mix and match, simple, timeless clothing with a handful of trendy pieces to liven things up.

2.  I’ve thought a lot about the responses from the interviews we’ve had on this site.  Here are some comments that have really stuck with me:

from our interview with Reachel of Cardigan Empire, she talked about modesty and said, “Demure dress allows your entire self to shine as one united front.  Overexposure is distracting; you become a collection of disjointed body parts.  It’s all people can see whether they want to or not; they miss the whole of you.” I love that, “the whole of you”…isn’t that what we want our clothing to do?  To work for us, not against us, and to show people who we are?  The whole of us?  I’ve thought about that phrase, “the whole of you” so many times since I read the interview.  Plus, doesn’t it sound like an awesome title for a song?

from our interview with Naomi of Rockstar Diaries, she talked about her wardrobe essentials and said, “It’s rare you’ll find me in something other than a dress or skirt (I don’t own a single pair of jeans) so my essential wardrobe items are pieces that compliment my dresses or skirts. Colorful tights, heels, a few t-shirts or blouses, simple cardigans, a big belt and handbag are my main essentials. I’ve never had a lot of accessories or jewelry so I like to call wearing a little lipstick accessorizing and I’m done.” I remember reading that and thinking, “What!?  Homegirl doesn’t wear jeans!?  What on earth would I wear if I didn’t wear jeans?”  Then I thought about how so much of what I love about her style is that she is so fun and flirty and feminine.  Then it clicked.  Hello?  Maybe wearing more skirts could help bring out the fun/flirty/feminine in me?  I don’t know why it was such a revelation, but believe me…it was.

from our interview with Andrea of DownEast Basics when she said, “I think we can all relate to a time when we try and wear clothing that may not be modest and we end up not even enjoying the event or situation at all because we are constantly tugging at the clothing or looking down to see what others may be able to see.  My goal is to create pieces that will rid women of this worry so they can spend more time enjoying life and those around them.  I want all women that wear DownEast Basics to feel comfortable, confident, and beautiful.” I loved that.  Sometimes the only criteria I have for choosing clothes is, “is it inexpensive and decently cute?”  So lame.  My new criteria is, “when I wear it do I feel comfortable, confident, and beautiful?”  So much better.

from our interview with Elaine of Clothed Much she said, “I usually weed out the clothes I haven’t worn or thought about wearing for a few months and trade them in for store credit at a consignment store so that when I find something I like, I don’t have to spend money out of my pocket. If I’m not wearing it, it’s not staying in the closet because that’s what they’re there for, to be worn.” I know we all know that we should give away the clothes we’re not wearing, but I loved how she just broke it down to the main point, “that’s what they’re there for, to be worn.”  I thought about how much of what’s in my closet is there because I used to really like it, when I used to fit into it, and I keep thinking about how it could be great again.  But all the while it just sits in my closet, unworn, mocking me.  You know what I mean?  Or, I have items that I got on a super sale but never found myself wearing them because the fit is all wrong, and somehow keeping them in my closet is like my penance for buying such a stupid shirt/skirt/or whatever.  So silly.  Elaine has the perfect plan, though.  Take the items you don’t wear to a consignment shop so that you can get a little bit of that money back as you shop for something new!  So simple and so perfect!

What are your fashion revelations?  What are your deep thoughts?  Or even your not-so-deep-thoughts?  Please share!

Dear Sensibly Styled,
In three years I went from working woman to mother of a two year old and a 6 month old.  Although I love them to death and wouldn’t trade them for the world, they have destroyed my style.  And not in the usual way.  Happily it was not difficult for me to mostly regain my pregnancy figure- okay maybe one size up.  And although I still fit into my structured jackets, button up shirts and pointy shoes, they are not the most practical wear for peanut butter, pretend princesses, and play dates.  Help me find a way to incorporate the style that once felt so me into my new life.  I need to find pieces that feel business.  Clean lines, structured jackets (they really are my favorite) fashionable shoes, and great details, that work with my climbing on the floor, going to the park, wash and wear mommy life.
Thanks so much,
Crystal F.
Heber City, Utah

and from our reader Jessica:  Ok, First off I LOVE this website, it has helped me SO much with finding more modest clothing.  So thank you!!  Ok I need some new fall clothing and was wondering if you could help!  I am 25 years old, size 4, and chase after a 18 month all day …. so I need cute, comfortable, stylish “mommy” clothing … HELP!!

Hi ladies!  It’s Emily, and trust me…this is predicament that I understand all too well.  I’ll turn 28 next month and I am the happy mama to a just over two year old boy and eight month old twin boys.  That makes 3 boys 2 and under.  My day is completely wrapped up in caring for my little ones, and after a lot of struggling to feel cute and put together, I’ve finally come up with my “uniform”.  Before you read any further, read this article from Gwyneth Paltrow’s site GOOP, it seriously revolutionized how I think about clothes.  Her concept, plus seeing how amazing Elaine (of Clothedmuch) is at putting together rad outfits, made so much sense to me.

So, I let the ideas simmer in my head for a little while, and this is my new clothing direction.  Maybe it will work for you, too.

First of all, for a long time I felt bummed out that my daily life with children didn’t really allow for cute clothes.  That is, unless I wanted to get my cute clothes spit up on all the time.  Which, I don’t.  I have now reached a point where I want my clothes for my job, the mama job, to be comfortable and functional…and easy to upgrade.  I realized that the demoralizing part wasn’t the comfortable clothes for my job of raising children (comfortable is non-negotiable!), it was that I didn’t know how to step up my look for when I was out running errands, at the park, at the library, etc.  This is my upgrade plan and everything is meant to mix and match.

p.s. the links for everything (except the cute blue floral camisole which isn’t available anymore, darnit) are at the bottom of the post

The core uniform is perfect for my job.  The tops are neutral and comfortable, and the bottoms are stretchy and make chasing, bending up and down, and sitting with little ones in my lap a lot easier.  I try to wear shoes as infrequently as possible (a trait inherited from my mother), but cute toenail polish makes me happy.  Like Gwyneth, I love a neutral gray heather, but just about any neutral will do.

The first upgrade is for everyday errands or for throwing on when a friend comes by.  I keep on my yoga pants and gray tee, add an easy sweater or light coat, and slip on some shoes.  This is a perfect upgrade for taking books back to the library, picking up milk and bread from the store, going to the park with the boys, or for getting together at a playgroup.  It’s not fancy, but it shows intent, which is the difference between a thrown together mess and easy mix and match outfits.

The second upgrade is a little more put together. Swap out the pants for some cute jeans, add a light coat and a scarf, and finish off with some flats. Or wear the jeans and gray tee with sneakers and a sweater. Or put a belt over the tee, slip on some flats, and add the necklace. Tons of options.

The final upgrade has even more options. First, you could swap out the gray tee for a cute top. Put it with the heels, boots, or flats. Or keep the gray tee, and add one of the upgraded sweaters for a more polished look. Trade out the bootcut jeans for the trouser jeans or black skinnies and put on a ruffled tank underneath the lightweight coat or casual sweaters and top it off with a belt…or not, either way works. Or keep the gray tee, tuck the skinny jeans in the boots, and add one of the upgraded sweaters. Or pair the tee with the skirt, boots (or red flats), and a sweater.
Combining all of these upgrades with the basic uniform creates about a million different looks.

What works for you? What are your favorite uniform basics and favorite upgrades?

Picture 1: crewneck, v-neck, henley, yoga pants, stretch pants w/ pockets
Picture 2: gray peacoat, purple wrap sweater, red high collar sweater, green shawl cardigan, chaco sandals, adidas sneakers, crocs flats, asics sneakers
Picture 3: green coat, yellow belt, blue flower belt, floral scarf, necklace, pink scarf, patterned flats, red flats, flare jeans, boot-cut jeans
Picture 4: gray sweater, teal shirt, green floral top, purple ruffle sweater, yellow pleated sweater, blue floral camisole (similar to shown), trouser jeans, pink ruffled camisole, black skinnies, patterned skirt, heels, boots

Our reader Bonny wrote:

So my brother in law, who dresses very nice and is quite trendy, told me the other day that, flared and boot cut jeans are out of style. (I wasn’t wearing jeans, we were just talking about clothes and he mentioned it) I know that skinny jeans are “in” right now, they are very cute, BUT i think that they only work for certain body types. I don’t think they look good on curvacious women.  I’m a curvy woman! I wear a size 12/14 and I would NEVER wear skinny jeans. They would make my thighs look HUGE! Does this mean I’m “out of style” and if so what am I supposed to wear? What is your opinion on the skinny jean? Thanks so much! I LOVE this site!

I have been wondering the same thing! I have a ‘strong lower figure’ or a  ‘pear’ body shape. I think skinny jeans look great on some people (like NATALIE for example!) but I’m not quite sure if I should give them a try or not!

So, I want to know what you guys think!

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Okay… just ladies, I’m sure there aren’t any gents who regularly check this blog… Anyhoo. I just wanted to let you all know that I’m back! LOL I know there have been a few posts from me, but all my husbands fam (including Emily…YAY) Have been in town since last Thursday for my Sister in Laws wedding. Which means, I’ve pretty much been over at my in laws for the past week! This next week we have some fun stuff happening… (hint: there will be an awesome giveaway! WOO HOO!!!) And we will get back to answering some of your emails! Also, I will post pictures of me and Emily at the wedding as soon as I find my stinkin camera (seriously. does anyone know where it is?) Also, quick update… I just got my stuff from Tulle in the mail. AMAZING! All of the three jackets I ordered are super high quality and I totally lucked out, they all fit! WOO HOO!!! Alright. So that’s that, for my update! You’ll be seeing more of my posts here next week!

Yo.  It’s Emily.  First of all, I’m now a little bit obsessed with Tulle.  Second, we’ve been getting a lot of emails from you awesome readers with requests for outfits/style advice.  We LOVE your emails.  We super love them.  Unfortunately, we can’t answer them all with a post, but here are some tips that will help get you to the top of the pile:

-in your email, include your name (first and initial of last name) and where you’re from…we just like seeing where y’all are from

-let us know your size, maybe your height, any problem areas, etc.  We love making outfits for you, but we need a little background information.  Plus it would be a bummer if we showed you something that wasn’t available in your size, would emphasize a less than favorite body part, would be too short for your 5’10″ frame, etc.

-this is an important one…give us a specific request.  We love the emails where people say, “I’ve got a bridal shower/high school reunion/family picture/hot date with my husband/important interview coming up and I need help finding something cute and modest to wear.”  Remember the one where a teacher needed help finding stylish clothes for going back to school, or the one where our reader had tickets to Wicked and needed a fun outfit for the show?  Those are good examples of specific requests.  It makes our job a little easier, plus you get exactly the help you need.  We all win.

-lastly, here at Sensibly Styled we’re trying to promote modesty and style.  Our goal is to give you limitless options and inspiration so that shopping for modest clothes is simple and satisfying.  We’re not really in the “fashion industry”…like at all.  We’re just friends who want to look good and figure others do, too.  We hope that what we do is making your life a little easier and your closet a little prettier.

Can you tell a difference? I sure can’t! Which makes me angry because I bought the one onthe right from Forever 21 for $34.50 (plus shipping) And I just found the one on the left for $17.99! Too bad it’s too late to return the one I have! When I bought it, they didn’t have it showing on a model… so it looked long enough. (and it’s not) If I would have seen these pictures, I would have known better!

(I actually just looked in my closet and the tags are still on! Do you think Forever 21 will cut me any slack? I don’t have a receipt… but not only is it too short, the sleeves are what I like to call, fake sleeves! Non existent!)

On left: Make Me Chic for $17.99, 34 inches long.

On Right: Forever 21 for $34.50, 34 inches long.

Here’s an email from our reader Michelle:

Hi ladies,
“I am a big fan; you are all very talented and tasteful. I am currently a professional and will graduate college in December with my accounting degree. I will be interviewing over the next six months and I want to look amazing. I am 5 foot 8 inches and a size 12-14. Can you please help me with a few outfits that could really dazzle anyone? I really do not have a big budget, but can splurge on a seldom must have. Also, if it is not too much trouble to ask, a few casual outfits as well that I could wear to my current job or out. I currently work in a casual office, jeans are fine.”

Thanks so much! Michelle

Hi Michelle!  Congratulations on your upcoming graduation!  That’s exciting, and definitely something to celebrate with some fun clothes.  I found on InStyle.com an article that talks about dressing for interviews, and they gave some great advice (I especially like the advice about luxe-looking shoes).  Check out the feature here, and enjoy the pieces we found for you.  For casual outfits, check through our archives for great blouse/trouser jeans combos.  Good luck with your interviews!

Love, Emily

Petal Tee, Ann Taylor Loft, $34.50

Ruched Sleeve Cardigan, Ann Taylor Loft, $39.50

Mary-Jane Pumps, Nordstrom,$62.90

Black Pencil Skirt, Ann Taylor Loft, $39.99

Peep-Toe Pumps, Nordstrom, $52.90

Black Pleated Neck Dress, Nordstrom, $78.90

Here’s an email from Ashley in Arizona:

“First, I LOVE this site.  You all do an amazing job at matching outfits and body types.  Now on to my dilemma, Saturday my little family has pictures.  Now, I want to wear a cute summery dress.  I am a size 14, and I have bigger arms that never look so good in pictures.  Even if it’s not a dress, I need something that will hide all my trouble spots (arms, belly), and be a good color for a picture.  Any ideas???”

Okay, Ashley.  Since we don’t have much time, I’ll give you ideas of what to look for, and hopefully with that you’ll be able to find something that works for you in your local stores.

First of all, I have what my family sort of affectionately refers to as “Arnett Arms”, which is our way of saying chubby arms without saying the word chubby.  (My mom’s maiden name is Arnett)  It’s inherited and unless I become an Olympic backstroke medalist, it’s just a body characteristic that I have to work around.  Here are some tips.

Never, ever wear anything that is gathered on the sleeves.  Actually, at this moment I’m wearing a knit top that had gathered sleeves when I bought it but I took a seam ripper to them and took out the elastic and now they have a nice elbow-length flutter sleeve.  Gathered sleeves for us is tragic.

I’m going to put out positive energy that when you go shopping you’re able to find a dress that has a shape that looks something like the one on the right.  It’s a nice, kimono-style wrap dress that will totally disguise the upper arm and will just float over the tummy/hips.  (for something important, like a family picture that’s going to be on your wall for the next 10 years, I’d wear some sort of Spanx-type undergarment)

If you don’t find a dress that you like, another great option is a sleeveless dress with a cardigan on top.  That would look wonderful!  Just pick a cardigan that hits lower than the upper arm.  You want something that is elbow length to 3/4 length, but it’s best not to go longer than that.  If the sleeve is too long then you don’t see any of the wrist, the thinnest part of the arm, and you want to see the forearm/wrist area.  A nice sheath dress in a fabric with some structure to it, plus a cardigan, and a wide belt on top…that’s a winning look.

If you can’t find a dress/cardigan combo you like, then there’s option #3: a cute blouse and jeans or a pencil skirt.  My favorite kind of top (for when I’m just going to wear a top, no cardigan or jacket or anything) is a dolman sleeve.  A dolman sleeve is when there’s no seam at the top of the shoulder around to the armpit, so the sleeve looks kind of kimono-ish.  That is ideal.  The top in the outfit I put together would be perfect for you.  Totally takes care of the arm situation.  Next, for the tummy situation, you know how much I love belts.  A nice wide belt will give you a waist.  Just don’t wear it tight.  It’s not to hold you in so much as to define your shape.  If you’re handy with a sewing machine, I’d make yourself an obi belt kind of like this one (just in a much better fabric, and have the tie over to the side a bit).  You know, just whip it up in your spare time…

I put this top with some dark jeans, but it would look great with a slim pencil skirt, too.  I like the look of some dangly earrings and a long, draping necklace with this outfit, and some cute floral pumps for the fun of it.

I hope this helps.  I would think your best bet would be to hit up a big department store and look through the dresses first, if that proves unsuccessful, then start shopping your favorite stores to see if they have tops you like.

Bottom line: no gathered sleeves, find a great belt, and have a great time!

Love, Emily

p.s. if you end up having more time and would like links so you can purchase some of these online items, let me know.

Silk/Linen V-neck cardigan, J.Crew, on sale for $59.99

From our reader Katie G.

Alright, my friend Alisa just emailed you and asked for help with an outfit for her 10 year reunion. I’m in the same boat, can’t figure out what to wear.  After seeing those great outfits I thought I’d contact you ladies.  I’ll be going with Alisa so I’ve got to look just as good as her  I’m thinking dark trouser jeans (I’ve got a pair from Banana Republic) but don’t know what else to wear.  PLEASE HELP!!!

Hi Katie! Alright, I’ve made two outfits for you… the one on the left is less expensive, but super cute. And the one on the right, I wasn’t being price conscious at all! (I know, there are still sale items, but I don’t think I can really not be price conscious at all!) I couldn’t find any trouser jeans at Banana Republic or I would have put those in here! Both outfits can definitely be worn with heels. But  I don’t know if any one has noticed… if it’s not specified, I always go with flats. I love flats! Have fun at your reunion and you and Alisa are going to look amazing! You should definitely send us a picture afterward!

Peace, Natalie

Outfit on the Left:

V-neck Cardigan at Alloy on sale for $9.99

Charleston Trouser Twill at Alloy on sale for $19.99

Ruffle Blouse at Charlotte Russe for $16.99

Clevverr from Steve Madden on sale for $24.98

Motif from Steve Madden on sale for $29.95

Brass Cuff at Alloy for $14.90

Cicley Earring at Alloy for $12.90

Outfit on the Right:

Rinse Flare Jean at Calvin Klein on sale for $59.99

Tuxedo-front Solid Cotton Cami at JCrew on sale for $49.99

Cotton Cadeau Cardigan at JCrew on sale for $79.99

Crunchh from Steve Madden on sale for $29.98

Butterfly Floral Filigree Earrings at Charlotte Russe for $4.00

Filigree Rhinestone Bracelet at Charlotte Russe for $4.00

Okay, here’s the thing about Naomi.  She’s not just your average talented, loving, energetic, spirited, lovely girl.  What makes me just love her, and this may be hard to explain, but she is my happy version of “Entertainment Tonight.”  You know how shows like that are all about ridiculous people doing really stupid things and wearing really trashy clothes?  Naomi is the opposite of that.  I love to read her blog to see a wonderful girl who’s doing her best to make herself a wonderful life.  And doing a darn good job.  Plus, the clothes?  To die for.  She’s got some great taste.  We talk about that in the interview, and I was excited to get to know her a little better.

4. With your vintage fashion finds, is your wardrobe kind of like a revolving door?  Meaning, do you pick something up if it looks interesting and then if it doesn’t work, no big deal, and you just put it back in the thrift store pipeline?  Or are you very discerning with what you do or don’t by?  What are you looking for when you go to a thrift shop?, are there pieces you always have your eyes out for, like a certain kind of coat or specific style of a dress?

6.  What are, for you, your 10 essential wardrobe items, your never-fail, go-to pieces?
“It’s rare you’ll find me in something other than a dress or skirt (I don’t own a single pair of jeans) so my essential wardrobe items are pieces that compliment my dresses or skirts. Colorful tights, heels, a few t-shirts or blouses, simple cardigans, a big belt and handbag are my main essentials. I’ve never had a lot of accessories or jewelry so I like to call wearing a little lipstick accessorizing and I’m done.”

7. Who are your fashion inspirations?  Do you often experiment and try a new look?
“I think Zooey Deschanel has excellent taste in fashion. I adore everything that girl puts on.”

8. You and Josh seem pretty footloose and fancy free!  You looked fantastic in your pictures from your Dominican Republic trip, do you have any tips for packing so stylishly?
“Thank you! Gosh, I don’t think I packed very well for the DR since the trip was a surprise and I didn’t have a lot of time to get my things together. I actually didn’t know how long we’d be away so I didn’t bring enough clothes! By the last day I was tucking a dress into a skirt to reinvent my look a little and change up my outfit a bit! So thanks for saying that.

I usually always over pack, because I don’t like planning my outfits so far ahead of time. Sometimes I change 2 or 3 times in a day depending on my mood. So I don’t have any tips, I NEED tips! If you ever have any, let me know!”

9. Here at Sensibly Styled, our goal is to promote fun and stylish modesty.  What are your thoughts about modesty and what it says about a woman?

“Oh gosh I think modesty says everything. It’s not just about covering up either; I think modesty speaks volumes about a woman’s confidence and how she wants to be perceived and respected by others, let alone herself.  There are many modest {and still fashionable} clothing choices out there and I wish more women valued them instead of prancing around in such revealing clothing options endorsed by popular clothing stores or the media and designers.”

10.  What’s next for you, Naomi?  As blog fans we love seeing your daily adventures.  What’s coming up next in life for Taza and her Prince?

“Hopefully more exciting adventures with husband!  I’m also styling some fun fashion projects over the next few months and will be teaching dance this fall too!”

Go check out Rockstar Diaries today, and give our girl some love.  I’ll be looking forward to seeing more adventures, and more of that gorgeous hair.  Seriously, how do her bangs stay so smooth?

Thanks Catherine for some everyday inspirations! To find all the links of where to buy these items click here! Happy weekend!

Do you have any outfits you want to put together and send in? We would LOVE to post them!

Hi!
I love your site, it is so great! I would love it if you could do some cute clothes for tall people!  I am six feet tall, with a 36″ inseam, and I just have the hardest time finding skirts, dresses, shorts, and pants that are long enough, let alone affordable.  I always feel like I’m settling for what is available.  I’d love your help, you guys do such a great job, putting together great outfits! Thank you!

Kylie

Guess Daredevil Skinny Stretch Jean at Buckle for $79.00.

Big Star Vintage Liv Stretch Jean at Buckle for $148.00

BKE Star Stretch Cropped Jean at Buckle for $56.00

Alyson Striped Boyfriend Cardigan at Delias on clearance for $19.99

Rissa Boyfriend Cardigan at Delias on clearance for $14.99

Donna & Harriet Skirt at Anthropologie on sale for $69.95

Fold-Over Woven Skirt at Forever 21 for $17.80

Kylie, I understand your frustration in a completely opposite way… I’m 5’1 and jeans are NEVER short enough. The only jeans that fit me… had to be hemmed. Lame. Anyways, I hope these items help a little bit. You can shop at Buckle by “inseam size” and they go all the way up to 37″! Awesome. I would have to say that although the stuff I posted isn’t very inexpensive, that paying a good sum for some jeans… TOTALLY worth it. Especially when you are like me and it is a miracle to find a good fit. So… go over to Buckle, find 2-3 pairs of jeans that are amazing, and they will last you for years. (Also, I’m envious of tall people because they look so dang cute it boyfriend sweaters… unlike me! So I added a couple of those in there for you!) Other stores that sell in ‘Tall’ sizes:

Banana Republic Gap Old Navy Buckle JCrew Express Ann Taylor Loft Chadwicks

I’m sure there are more, so ladies… do you know of any stores that sell in Tall sizes? Leave a comment for Kylie!

from mom-to-be, reader Cynthia:

“How about some maternity stuff?  Better yet, I have my shower approaching and need something to wear to that.  Preferably something not sleeveless.  Help!”

Dear Cynthia,

Yay!  You’re about to have a baby!  I love babies!  Congratulations on your impending zombie-like state of sheer exhaustion and perfect love.  Do you all read c jane enjoy it?, of course you do.  I love how she talks about wanting to eat her child.  Not really eat eat.  Like you would eat a twinkie or something. (do people actually eat twinkies?)  But babies are just so delicious, you’ll want to nibble on your little one all day.  Go read c jane, she says it better than I do. (oh, and while you’re there, notice how hot those purple Steve Madden shoes are that I put in the high school reunion post.  I totally put those in my outfit because of how slammin’ they look on c jane.  Seriously, don’t we all need some hot shoes?)

Anyway, a shower is always a fun event, especially when it’s for you!  Maternity clothes, for a pretty frugal girl like me, are tricky because you want to be cute and stylish, but it’s hard spending any decent amount of money for clothes with a short lifespan.  So I’ve found cute dresses in a wide range of prices, and you pick what works best for you.  I think any of them would make for a very stylish guest of honor at a baby shower.  Enjoy your day!

Love, Emily

1. Kimono Wrap Dress, Isabella Oliver, $240 (I love this dress and the color.  The whole site is full of gorgeous clothes.)

2. Cap Wrap Dress, Isabella Oliver, $93.00 (This dress would be so comfortable!)

3. The Monaco Dress, Isabella Oliver, $148.00 (So chic.  It’s amazing that a woman that pregnant could look that chic.)

4. Chiarakruza Manon Dress, Twilite Moon, $178.00 (When I was pregnant with my first, I got a catalog for this store in my mailbox one day, and it’s full of delightful things.  Check out their site, it’s all so stylish.)

5. Pintuck Dress, Twilite Moon, $96.00 (I think the detailing on the bodice of this dress is so cute.  I would wear this with a cute pair of red flats.  Or yellow.)

6. Virgin Strawberry Daiquiri Dress, Shabby Apple, $62 (I LOVE this dress, I love how they styled it, and I love the name.  Virgin Strawberry Daiquiri?  For a maternity dress?  Funny.)

7. Chocolate Craving Dress, Shabby Apple, $62.00 (So cute, and so comfortable.)

8. Smocked-Waist Dress, Old Navy, $24.50 (I bet this would be crazy comfortable, and while it doesn’t have sleeves, it would look great styled with #9.)

9. Jersey Wrap Cardigan, Old Navy, $19.50 (I love cardigans, and this one looks like a comfy one.  I wore a lot of cardigans when I was pregnant.  Plus, Old Navy has a ton of cute scarves to complete the look.)

10. Chiffon Cross-front Dress, Old Navy, $36.50 (I think this may be my favorite.  I love the teal color and the patterned plum color.  It may need a deep scoopneck slim tee underneath.  The jewelry I picked out is for this dress.)

11. Peacock Teardrop Earrings, Forever 21, $3.80 (These would look great with the teal dress, very fun.)

12. Tropical Flower Ring, Forever 21, $5.80 (A fun way for color and accessories.  My thoughts on accessories: I wouldn’t wear lots of bracelets or a big necklace or anything.  While I’m usually a big fan of big bracelets and big necklaces, I think pregnancy is a time to pare down on accessories and let that motherly glow shine.  A fun cocktail ring and some dangly earrings would be enough.)

Oh, Amanda.  You came to the right place.  I know exactly what you’re talking about.  I have a 2 year old son and twin baby boys, and my stomach looks quite like a waterbed (too gross?), and Natalie and I share your frustration of a big chest that gets even bigger when nursing.

So, I have some cute options for you, but first some advice.  With my older son, he was about 8 or 9 months old before I one day decided to pump on Saturday so that I could have a bottle to bring to church on Sunday.  I don’t want to oversell this…but, it changed my life.  Prior to that, I would spend half of my time at church in the mother’s lounge and every week I would have to wear a top and a skirt even though I had cute dresses that I was dying to wear.  New mom-ness isn’t very glamorous sometimes, especially when you’re nursing and your boobs are ginormous.  It made a big difference for me to have Sunday as my day.  My day to wear a cute dress and squeeze close to my husband, enjoy our sweet little baby, and actually be able to worship at church.  Plus, it gives your husband a chance to feed and snuggle baby, or you could share the wealth of cute baby-ness and let a sweet lady in your church have a turn at feeding baby.  Totally just my opinion and experience, but see if it works for you.  It made all the difference for me.

And now, to the clothes!

Here’s the thing about a big chest, it’s extra difficult to be modest and appropriate because even when you aren’t trying to, a well-endowed lady can look she’s trying to put her chest on display.  Isn’t that frustrating?  One of my favorite solutions for that is a slim tee (I love DownEast’s Wonder Tee!) or camisole underneath dresses or tops that would show too much cleavage.  Another favorite trick is wearing a belt.  Oh, how I love belts.  It holds in all of my waterbed tummy-ness and gives me more of a structure.

I have a lot of cute dress options for you, as well as cute tops to pair with skirts for church or with jeans for everyday.  Old Navy has a cute pencil skirt and flowy skirt, as well.  Good basics.

New moms don’t have a lot of opportunities to dress up and feel fabulous, so make Sunday your day!  I hope this helps, and congratulations on your sweet new baby!

Love, Emily

1. Leatherock Covered Buckle Belt, Nordstrom, $31.90 (comes in a few colors, available in XL, I love this belt!  Wouldn’t it be so cute in the teal and purple, too?)

2. Patent Leather Belt, Nordstrom, $23.90 (it’s on sale, so not all sizes seem to be available anymore, but the look of the sweater with the belt on top is perfect for those of us with squishy tummy business.)

3. Open Front SS Top, Forever 21, $17.80 (this is a must-buy!  Light enough for summer, and just floats over the tummy area.  Plus, looks great wrapped around with a belt on top.  Do I talk too much about belts?  Have I told you that I love them?)

4. Box Pleat Skirt, Nordstrom, $33.90 (a great price on a smart looking skirt.  I love the pleats, and this would look great with #6, #10, #8…well, just about anything.)

5. Sheer Frill Neck Top, Forever 21, $19.80 (I love how the frill de-emphasizes the chest and the tummy.  And it’s lovely.)

6. Belted Snap Button Shirt, Forever 21, $19.80 (I love this shirt to a million.  Get it in both colors, you’ll be glad to have them.)

7. Janine Woven Top, Forever 21, $15.80 (the gathers at the chest will help to make sure the buttons don’t gape open.  Don’t you hate that!?)

8. Two Pocket Grid Shirt, Forever 21, $15.80 (so summery and cute.  Plus, come fall time, this would look great under a sweater and with some trousers.  Bonus.)

9. Floral Printed Sheer Top, Forever 21, $19.80 (would look perfect with either of the Old Navy skirts I mentioned above, or with jeans and heels for a date out with the husband)

10. Dolman Sweater Knit Top, Forever 21, $24.80 (I love Dolman sleeves.  Like, LOVE them.  Can I marry them?  Buy the jade one and wear it with the pleated skirt (#4).  Lovely.  Oh, and I love how the banded bottom on the top kind of holds it all in.)

11. Border Print Dress, Nordstrom, $148.00 (I love how the border on the sleeves and hem keep your eye moving.  It’s like you don’t even notice she has a tummy.  This one may need a camisole.)

12. Faux-Wrap Dress, Nordstrom, $98.00 (these Nordstrom dresses get a bit pricey, but you’ll love the wrap dresses.  I went to a wedding when the twins were 2 months old, and my black wrap dress saved me.)

13. Silk Chiffon Dress, Nordstrom, $178.00 (Okay, so this is expensive and dry-clean only…not very practical for new moms.  But it’s sure cute.)

14. Faux-Wrap Dress 2, Nordstrom, $108 (Another option.  I love options.  These wrap dresses probably need a wonder tee or a camisole.)

15. Jersey Dress, Nordstrom, $98.00 (This dress is perfection.  The neckline isn’t too low, and the buckle detail makes a nice shape.  Definitely get this one, it’s a workhorse of a dress but put some fun accessories with it and it can be a show horse, too!)

16. Lincoln Center Dress, Shabby Apple, $76.00 (made in a substantial canvas sateen, it’ll keep squishy areas on their best behavior.  Don’t you love that Shabby Apple has Plus-size, too?)

17. Broadway Dress, Shabby Apple, $74.00 (cotton poplin with a little bit of stretch, plus it has pockets!  I love dresses with pockets.  Perfect for some chapstick, gum, and a pacifier.)

18. Red Knit Dress, Shabby Apple, $62.00 (this is now on my wish-list.  I love the color, the wrap at the top, and…imagine it with a belt!)

Whew.  I sure talk (uh…type…) a lot.

What do you ladies think?  Do you have any suggestions for Amanda, and for all of the rest of us with big chest issues or a little squish in the tummy?  Plus, any new mom style advice?

Our reader Kristi, from Ringgold, GA, emailed us saying,

“So, I’m watching so you think you can dance tonight (july 8th) and you MUST find out where to get Cat Deeley’s black dress.  It is GORGEOUS and probably out of my price range.  Modest.  Chic.  UBER-HOT!”

Kristi, we agree!  Super hot.  I found the picture here on InStyle.com, and she talks a little about her outfit.  It’s a Dior dress, so…yeah.  Out of my price range, at least.  But, she gives great tips on how she accessorized her little black dress to make the whole look something really special.  While her dress may be out of our price range, her look is definitely within reach for all of us.  Even if our legs aren’t 10 miles long.

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Hello Ladies! Today we want you to get to know Reachel from Cardigan Empire. We love her, and if you don’t know her yet, you will love her after reading this! Enjoy!

1.  Reachel, we love your blog!  We love your witty writing, your inspiring can-do attitude, and of course, your amazing taste in clothes.  Oh, how I wish I could transport all of us to the nearest Anthropologie for a shopping fiesta!  Could you tell us a little more about yourself?

At this moment I’m at the airport waiting for my husband to pick me up.  I told him he wouldn’t recognize me because I was wearing athletic trainers.  The lace ups constituted my bulkiest footwear, and I was determined to fit everything back into a single carry-on.

2.  When did you develop such an enthusiasm for fashion?  What influenced your style growing up?  How about now?

I’ve fancied clothes ever since I was a toddler.  At the age of three, my mom was forced to check my clothing out to me because I wanted to wear three to four outfits simultaneously.  As the inches in my stature accumulated, I began to develop strong feelings for retro stylings with allegorical leanings.  The shift dresses my Mom had sewn for herself in the sixties were favorites.  I even had an ensemble dedicated to my love for the Rocky cinema series.  I still believe in wearing items that remind you of what you love. Today I’ve donned a bracelet monogrammed with my husband’s initials and tax token earrings.  My great-grandma had a play-store where the principal currency was tax tokens.  Clothing is self expression, so choose your statements tastefully and don’t let anyone else put words in your mouth.

3.  What are the three main mistakes that women make with their style?

Mistake one, two, and three can all be encapsulated in a single category: believing that one has to change their body to fit clothes properly.  It’s so backwards it makes me feel slightly nauseated. Whether individuals are waiting to reach an illusive body ideal before investing in themselves, or wishing for what they believe to be a superior body type, or punishing themselves with thoughts on how they have “failed their clothes.”  They are wrong.  And as I am not aware of an emoticon for eye rolling, I will settle with saying “Clothes exist to serve you, procure items that are perfect for your body right now.  Your clothes exist to serve you.”  Carefully selected pretties can streamline and structure your existing form.  Once well dressed, you may find yourself motivated to take better care of yourself or you may find yourself able to accept yourself exactly as you are.  Marilyn Monroe was a voluptuous size 14 hourglass.  Audrey Hepburn was a straight little size 2 linear.  Both are iconic beauties.  Learn your own body advantages and learn to love it.

4.  When you started your blog, Cardigan Empire, what was your goal?  Has your increased readership and success changed that?

My goal has always been to help women love themselves as they are.  You don’t need to wear a dress size half the size of your shoe, or have a birthdate less than or equal to the current cover model.  Just make yourself as beautiful as you can be, and learn to accept a compliment.  Smile when you look at yourself in the mirror and maybe even give yourself a wink.  I think we’d all be happier if our reflections winked at us now and then.

5.  What are your favorite stores?

Besides Anthropologie, my heart flutters for boutiques.  I like to shop local at home and whenever I travel.  What I purchase becomes a tangible memory of where I’ve been.

6.  Who are your fashion icon inspirations?

I adore Coco Chanel.  In her ever so elegant own words, “Fashion is not something that exists in dresses only. Fashion is in the sky, in the street, fashion has to do with ideas, the way we live, what is happening.”

7.  Can we see a picture of you in a successful outfit?, one that gave you that “million bucks” feeling?  How about a not so successful outfit?  What made those respective outfits so successful or unsuccessful?

My “successful” outfit draws attention to my best features.  I have a strong lower figure, so I’ve congregated the boldest patterns and details on my northern half to balance the figure equation.  The bright colors are suited to my complexion and a riding belt works to narrow my waist.  The trousers are comparatively subtle with wide legs draping straight down from my full hips.  And the 4 inch heels under my cuffs turn my legs into leggies.

The unsuccessful outfit is actually demonically comfortable and right on trend, unfortunately it does nothing for my figure.  The harem pants cuddle around my calf at its widest point and the shiny silk clings to every curve of my “athletic” thighs.  The knit top looses my shape completely and the scarf (as my husband/photographer observed) makes me look like I’m ready for a magic carpet ride.  I do like the shoes however; those shoes are champions.  When I’m not sure about an outfit, I’ll commonly take a picture so I can see myself more objectively.

(Bottom three pictures are just examples of how to wear the scarf.) Scroll down to see early post of this outfit.

So what do you think? Emily revised the wedding outfit that I put together. It has more color, which was much needed!

“what’s up. okay, so here’s my outfit for you: same dress, same shoes, and same bag.”-Emily

NEW STUFF:

Scarf: ‘Phasianidae Scarf’ from Anthropologie for $38.00 “which ties it all in together, adds the gold element, and brings in color.”

Necklace and Earrings: ‘Flower Jewelry Set’ at Forever 21 for $4.80 “simple earrings and nice simple long necklace so it doesn’t interrupt the neckline of the dress.”

One of our readers, Emily, (not Emily that posts on here, but a different Emily) wrote us an email saying this:

“I recently picked this up while I was shopping at Urban (Outfitters) and thought it was a skirt only to find out it’s a terrible looking strapless shirt.  However, I got a nude colored slip skirt to go underneath it because it is a shear fabric and turned it into the cutest skirt!  I put it with a light pink V-neck from Old Navy and wore it semi-high waist and it was perfect.  I think Urban may have been confused when they made this as a shirt.”

I was pumped to hear about her clever way to make a “shirt/dress” into a skirt. So I asked Emily if she would be so kind as to send us a picture of what she had done. Check it out!

Just brilliant Emily! Has anyone else put together a clever outfit? Or something that you are really proud of? Send it in! Natalie@sensiblystyled.com we’d love to see it!

At Urban Outfitters for $38.00, 24.5 inches long.

So what do you think? Should I dress brighter for an August wedding?

Dress: ‘Loraine Dress’ from Delias for $44.50, 36 inches long

Shoes: ‘Fellicia’ from Steve Madden on sale for $44.98

Clutch: Steve Madden ‘Luna’ Clutch from Endless for $34.00

Necklace: ‘Silk Flowers Necklace’ from Forever 21 for $10.80

Bracelet: ‘Round Faceted Bracelet’ from Charlotte Russe for $4.00

Earrings: ‘Stone Flower Earrings’ from Charlotte Russe for $4.00

Too much black for a summer wedding? Or is it just right?

LOLOLOLOL! Sorry, but I didn’t know they even sold this bad of jeans anymore! Just made me laugh. For those of you who don’t know… these aren’t hip.

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Cropped Pants: Violet Trouser Capris at Charlotte Russe for $27.99

Top: Sadie Chiffon Ruffle Blouse at Forever 21 for $22.80

Sandals: Hermosa by Ocean Minded for $30.00

Sunglasses: At Old Navy on sale for $5.00

Bracelet: Retro Circle Bracelet at Charlotte Russe for $4.00

Earrings: Floral Enamel Earrings at Charlotte Russe for $4.00